“Reading this book is like sitting down with a trusted friend who has your well-being in mind every step of the way. Healing Steps is like no other book of sexual abuse healing - I know, I’ve read them all - and this is the one I recommend!!” Kathy, a survivor in California
It is surprising that in this age of abuse-awareness, the #MeToo movement, and with movies such as The Tale receiving such critical acclaim, there is still a lack of resources for women who were sexually abused as children. Healing Steps: A Gentle Path to Recovery for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse offers tools to guide you through the pain and confusion of your own personal healing as well as some solid information to help you answer any questions you may have. There is inspiration and support from women who have struggled with their own recovery and you will be offered the same processes that helped them achieve their goals of a more balanced, less pain-filled and more fulfilling life.
“I have been waiting for a book to use with my clients that is professional, well-thought out, and a catalyst for healing while providing hope for recovery. This is it. Buy one for yourself and have several on hand for your clients.” Donna Smith, Psy.D., Washington
Healing Steps offers counselors, therapists, social workers, etc. a step-by-step guide to assist you in your work with sexually abused clients. Chances are you have not had training in childhood trauma and specifically in sexual abuse. Research shows that 56-70% of clinicians have not had training in working with survivors although 80% of professionals state that they would like more information and training. Healing Steps not only provides information about sexual abuse but also offers a process to use in your own practice either with individual clients or in a group setting. There are exercises, visualizations, and homework assignments that can enrich - and hopefully inspire - your work with your abused clients.
“Healing Steps offered me new hope, support (especially support), and was a well- organized path to reworking my ongoing and long journey to wellness. The logical steps and practical exercises can be accomplished at a pace that feels right. The desire to share this book with my husband has been very strong. This book should be read by family and loved ones of all abuse survivors.” Marilyn, a survivor in Colorado
Often family or friends of a survivor are at a loss of what to do or say when someone they care about reveals she was sexually abused as a child. There is no perfect response although Healing Steps does give examples of what to say and more importantly, what not to say. Talking about abuse is difficult and awkward for both the person sharing the information and the person who is listening. There is a tendency to hastily shut down the conversation and move on. Having an appropriate book on hand to give to your friend or family member is the perfect response. You might say, “I don’t know what to say other than I’m so, so sorry this happened to you, Perhaps this book would be helpful and supportive at this time.”
“I really like the workbook format with all the exercises. I’m thinking about using Healing Steps as a guide for me and a couple of friends who have both been sexually abused. We can help and support each other.” Deb, a survivor
There may be a support group in your area to help you as you move through your own healing steps. But if not, why not start one? Healing Steps is a perfect step-by-step process that evolved out of groups of women molested as children. It is the perfect format either to be facilitated by a mental health professional or could be used as a guide in a peer support group as Deb suggested. Just begin with Step One, read through the material at your own pace and use the exercises as homework. At the next meeting, review the homework and the experience of the participants as they did their exercises over the week. And so on through all the Steps. There is no one that understands the complexities of sexual abuse better than another survivor.
Marilyn Van Derbur, Miss America
If you are in distress and need support, call 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member of RAINN. You can also visit online.rainn.org to receive support via a confidential online chat.
There is always someone you can speak with on NAASCA. Please check their website for resources, support groups via Zoom, access to their radio broadcasts, and information for your healing and recovery.
For questions about the book, email Sharyn Higdon Jones
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